I have a MAJOR family issue! please help?

I think the best thing for you to do is get help from a professional. these girls lost their mother, they need help dealing with this issue. and the older one is upset. the younger one is trying to replace her mother with you and that is not healthy either. So my suggestion is get help, not from us on yahoo but real help! P.S. i love how excepting you are of your gay daughter!